Comments on: The Five Love Languages – Valentine’s Day Book Giveaway

By: Charla

Charla — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 16:08:22 +0000

Marriage IS built on love, but on Agape Love (there are four different types of “love”) which is unconditional love and puts others before self. That’s one thing this book does is to help people understand the other person and their needs, and in doing so they can show their love in a way that the other person can perceive as love.

By: Lib-Hero

Lib-Hero — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:10:41 +0000

Marriage is not built upon love. But love sustains and under-grids marriage. Marriage should be built upon a solid ground (upon a being higher then human beings = Christ Jesus) so that when the the storms of life’s problems blow and the earth quakes of socio-economic crises strike, the marriage will survive. Love is an emotion which is unstable and unreliable. But it is needed in marriage. Love is then both an emotional and a behavioral response to your partner. However, I illustrate the type of love that should under-grid marriage with the love of parents. A woman, or a couple may decide to bring another human being into the world. They plan to devote their love to the baby, care for it, provide for it, and protect it until it is born, grown, and until it becomes an adult to be independent. During the years the baby was conceived, birthed, and grown to adulthood, the parents provided love for which they did not seek dividends in return. They had no preconceived contract that they would bring a baby into the world, to love it and then it will return their love and services. No. It was out of an unconditional love that says: “We just want to give love to another person. No string is attached to our desire to bringing a baby into the world. We just want to love it because we have enough love inside each of us and we want to share it with another person.” Such love does not expect anything in return for an act, or for your love expressed to your partner. Such love seeks the total (100%) fulfillment, pleasure, joy, safety, happiness, and success of your beloved (your partner). That is what I call “unconditional love”–the one that should be present in and under-grid a successful marriage. However, giving such love is very difficult, therefore, not many people are willing to give it to another person. Consequently, divorce and separation rates and relationship breakups are rising exponentially. Love and you should not expect anything in return. This is the ideal way to establish, develop, and sustain any relationship–whether marriage, family, friendship, or dating relationship.The reward is that your relationship will blossom and your partner will naturally do for you that which you give away freely. That’s a universal law of nature. It has worked for a few people, for me, and it can work for you too.

By: Robin

Robin — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 04:55:57 +0000

I have heard this book is wonderful and would be proud to add it to my collection small but wonderful. Being married to my high school boyfriend and being 36 now having a tool to continue to help make our relationship strong is worth reading!

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 00:40:03 +0000

When I was 16, I waited tables at a diner and an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife came in and talked my ear off for a good hour. Among the many things he said was just how good this book was and how it had made a difference in his marriage even though he had been married over 50 years(!) by the time he read it. At 16, I didn’t think much of it. But being almost 28 and married, I’m grateful for this blog to remind me of that conversation, which I haven’t thought of in nearly 12 years.

By: Missy

Missy — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 23:29:27 +0000

That is something I would enjoy reading! I think you can never learn or do enough to keep your marriage strong and healthy.

By: Julie

Julie — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 22:19:16 +0000

It sounds like a great read! It also sounds like it would help us understand each other better if we prefer different love languages.

By: Kim

Kim — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 21:42:31 +0000

I heard of this book a few years ago, and just in this last week have been thinking about buying it to see if it helps w/my relationship problems!

By: Christin

Christin — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 20:45:02 +0000

I would love to know more about each individual love language so that in addition to growing my marriage, i feel it could benefit my other relationships with friends and extended family!

By: Tasha

Tasha — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 19:50:11 +0000

I often feel like my husband and I just don’t understand each other most of the time. After having kids it feels like we have lost touch with one another. Maybe this book would help us figure out where the other person is coming from so we can have a happier marriage and a healthier family.

By: Emmy

Emmy — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 18:47:02 +0000

I read this book years ago when I got it from the library… it is excellent and I often find myself wishing I owned it so I could refer to it more!