Do you ever get in the middle of a conversation and all of a sudden you realize communication is not happening? I know that happened with my husband and me before. Somehow, we stopped connecting, we weren’t listening to understand, and sometimes things were said that hurt the feelings of one of us. Solomon, who is considered by many to be the wisest person, has great advice to help us communicate peacefully and effectively:
- “He who holds his tongue is wise.” Proverbs 10:19 (Keeps a person from putting their foot in their mouth or hurting someone.)
- “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18 (Harsh words can pierce someone’s heart, but wise words will bring healing to a relationship. We can pray for words of wisdom.)
- “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 (A soft answer makes it easier for the listener to hear what is actually being said rather than reacting to harshness. It helps keep defensiveness from building up walls.)
- “A person finds joy in giving an appropriate reply, and how good is a timely word.” Proverbs 15:23 (The right words said at the right time are good, and joy can be found in it. Sometimes we need to wait for the right time to say certain things. Timing is so important!)
- “The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.” Proverbs 16:21 (Want to help someone understand what you mean? Use pleasant words to get your point across. Think of a positive way to get your meaning across.)
- “A word appropriately spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” Proverbs 25:11 (Words that are appropriate are going to be thought out, not a just a spur of the moment reaction that will stir up anger.)
- “A gentle tongue can break a bone.” Proverbs 25:15 (A gentle tongue is not weak. A gentle answer can accomplish a lot.)
When voices get louder, people get defensive. When people get defensive, they stop listening and stop communicating even though they’re talking. I love how Solomon teaches us to hold our tongues, not use reckless words but careful and thought out words, to use soft and gentle and pleasant words. Did you notice the proverb that says, “A person finds joy in giving an appropriate reply,” and their words are timely which means a person waits until the timing is right. Sometimes that means waiting until the next day. It means thinking about a response ahead of time so an appropriate reply can be given.
There is so much wisdom from God in Proverbs, a book in the Bible!
I think we all like to be around an encouraging person. They uplift us and motivate us. They help keep us focused on our goals or priorities in life. We need those types of people in our lives.
If you read my last post and notice the date, you’ll see that it’s been four months since then. I truly meant to post and have an updated look. A friend of mine, who is an encourager, noticed that I’m not posting anything on my blog and is motivating me to write. He has mentioned it two or three times, and I know Ryan will continue to do so in a caring and uplifting way.
How does he encourage me? How can we be encouragers? These are some ways we can uplift and be a blessing to others:
- Take the time to do it. In this busy world, most people are in a time crunch. Just say something uplifting in conversation, in an email or text message, or add it to their “to do list” and surprise them.
- Show genuine care and concern.
- Do it more than once. Follow up on your encouragement and see how things are going.
So what about my new theme? It hasn’t happened yet. Not yet anyway. My daughter and son are going to help me whenever we can all find the time to get together and work on it. But I’m not going to wait on the theme update anymore. The content is what’s more important…and having an encouraging friend to keep me accountable on my goal to blog again.
We have some friends who moved to San Diego years ago. They bought a house and settled there for several years. I had thought of San Diego as being a smaller town but found out it is actually one of the fastest growing cities in the nation and is the second largest city in California. That really surprised me! It has everything you would expect a large city to have. I’ve heard it’s a nice place to visit plus the cityscape is impressive. Maybe someday we’ll visit there. For now, I need to brush up on my geography lessons a little bit. Well, actually a lot!
Hope everyone had a nice weekend. We had a nice and busy weekend ourselves. Our son and new d-i-l met us at Starbucks Sunday afternoon to show pictures from their trip and visit a little bit. It was so good to see them! On Saturday evening, we visited with friends and shared some of the groom’s cake with them. Speaking of the groom’s cake, let me show you how cute it was…so perfect for our son. The bakery designed it perfectly! It was actually bigger than it looks like in the picture, and we enjoyed cake for the next week after the wedding. Yum!
Isn’t the cake creative? Enough about the cake! Here’s the menu:
Monday: Eat out
Tuesday: Chicken, corn, salad
Wednesday: Cheese Ravioli, salad, baby carrots
Thursday: Chef salad
Last weekend, we celebrated Father’s Day with our whole family and had a wonderful time. My husband received some nice, thoughtful cards and gifts. I know many people were out shopping last week, trying to find gifts. Some may have been looking at something sports related, and some may have been looking at books.
Whatever gift one gets for a loved one, it’s the thought and love behind the gift that really matters. Family is so important, and it’s also important to share on a regular basis, not just on Father’s Day or other special days, just how much we love and care for each other! Our family is not hesitant to say, “I love you!”
Here is a cute party idea. The cake was made by our daughter four years ago. Time really does fly by! …………….
This would be great for a high school or college graduation party.